Have you ever traveled the world, and then came back home to find yourself having this weird feeling of being homesick to a place that officially is not your home?
You are coming home, and it is nice for a little moment, but then you realize how much you have changed, and how everything back home stayed the same. And then you start to realize that you don’t fit in anymore. You became different than everyone else. Wearing different things. Having different opinions about things. Wanting to do different things. There are some words and sayings you used to say all the time, and now people wouldn’t understand you. And you miss your friends. Because those friendships were different, and they did know the “new you”. Your friends and family, they do not really understand you. Besides, you cannot tell them how much you not want to be at a place they are calling home or how much you miss people they might be afraid to be replaced with.
So, what to do in this kind of situation? Crying and eating tons of junk food while looking at pictures of old times and listening to songs that bring back memories? It is fine for a while, everyone needs that sometimes. But on the long term it will not make you feel better. Believe me, I tried.
Something I figured out for me personally, is to treat your home as some kind international experience. Do you remember, when you first went to, well wherever you have been, you also did not fit in? Everyone else was different, you wore different things, talked differently, and so on. You were happy back then, or not? Of course, the difference was that you choose this situation, it was an adventure, and it was exciting. I get that. Still, treating your coming back as another adventure will help you to gain a whole new perspective! Go out, rediscover old places, or find new places! You have changed, so you might enjoy things know, you didn’t a year ago. All in all, you might be surprised that it actually isn’t as bad as you thought once you actually appreciate it.
Then there is the friendship thing. Let me be insensitive here: put yourself together and meet them anyways! Advice like this always sounds horrible, because it is such an easy solution, but in the end it is true. You might have changed and your friendship has to adapt to that, but what is wrong with meeting them, and showing them who you are now? They have been your friends for a long time for a reason. Instead just giving up on them, give them a chance. If they are good people, and I bet they are, they will accept you. And so should you accept them for their choices. They might chose a life you would not want, but you love them so do not judge.
Last but not least, if you realize after a while that this place that used to be your home is not the place for you anymore change the situation. Go back to where you have been, go to another place. In most situations, we are lucky to have the freedom to go to places if we really want it. It might not happen instantly, and most likely takes hard word, patience, and some time but if you really want it it’s worth it. Consider yourself to be happy, since you know what you want. People who don’t might just miss their dream, because they never realized.